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You know you need to go.
You might still be hoping for a miracle. You might still get swept up in tenderness at odd moments.
And yet, something in you knows. Deep down, you feel it: this relationship has run its course.
You’re not confused. You’re grieving.
You’re not confused. You’re grieving.
There’s a kind of clarity in you now. It hasn’t fully found its words yet. It’s raw. Quiet.
You’re not looking for more reasons to leave. That list? It’s long enough. You’ve read it. Re-read it. Added to it. Cried over it.
You don’t need more evidence.
What you need is a way to honour — and to weather — the ending that’s on its way.
Because breaking up with someone isn’t just about stopping contact. It’s about changing the shape of your connection. And that can be as intricate as lace.
You might still care. Deeply. You might still admire parts of them.
And it still might be time to go.
Here’s something true: you can leave while loving them.
And if that’s your truth, you’ll need a way to speak that doesn’t come from anger or disappointment. A way to speak that honours dignity — yours and theirs.
Coming Home to Yourself
What if this isn’t just about how to leave — but how to return to yourself first?
That hovering-on-the-threshold spell before a breakup can feel disorienting. You might notice yourself shape-shifting to spare someone else's feelings. Or second-guessing yourself because what you feel doesn’t match what others think you "should" feel.
But something essential is calling you back.
A self you remember from before. A self you’ve glimpsed in your best moments. When you have felt fully yourself.
As you prepare to make a big change, you need to reclaim that place: your home in you.
That is the place from which you can speak with kindness, even in sorrow. A place which lets you stay grounded, even when saying goodbye.
So the real task here? It’s finding your way home to yourself. Listening inward before you speak outward.
Listening inward before you speak outward.
Let this next chapter begin not with what you owe others — but with what you honour in yourself.
What if leaving isn’t just an end — but a beginning?
Imagine walking away not in a cloud of shame or turmoil — but with a quiet sense of having done something brave.
Imagine the relief of no longer twisting yourself to fit. The dignity of standing in your truth — even when it hurts.
Imagine being able to say: I didn’t burn the bridge. I walked it with care.
What might open up for you, on the other side of this goodbye?
You’re not the only one who’s stood here.
The first client who asked me to help her weather a breakup that she knew she needed to make happen said afterwards:
"If you'd told me that in six weeks I would be feeling like this: like myself, whole, standing tall... I'm not sure I would have believed you."
Another client said: “I thought leaving would break me — but what broke me open was staying too long. Leaving turned out to be an act of self-trust I didn’t know I could pull off.”
Months after our coaching work, another client said: "It didn’t get easier overnight. But I felt like I could breathe again. I hadn’t even realised how long I’d been holding my breath.”
Their paths won’t be identical to yours. But they're here to remind you: this kind of change is survivable. It can even be transformational.
If you’d like someone by your side, I’m here.
When we work together in this territory, I’m not here to convince you to stay or go. I’m here to help you find your shape again. So that when you do speak, it’s from the part of you that feels rooted and whole.
I’m here to help you find your shape again. So you can speak and act from the part of you that feels rooted and whole.
I’ll help you get clear on what you need to say. How to say it. When it might be best to say it. And how to look after yourself in the aftermath.
Sometimes, we also speak to the part that’s scared: "But what if they fall apart? What if I regret it? What if I never feel this close to someone again?"
Together, we make room for those voices. But they don’t get to drive the car. Your inner compass is waiting to take the steering wheel.
Let’s find a way for you to leave that feels like a continuation of your growing into yourself. That honours the love that was real. And honours what feels like it needs to happen next.
If this is where you are, I can help you walk it through.
If you’d like a steady presence as you navigate this, I’d be honoured to walk alongside you.
You don’t have to do this alone.
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