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Relating Everywhere
There are moments that stay with you — not because of what was said, but because of how you were met.
A conversation where you suddenly felt understood.
A silence where the other person stayed, without needing to fix.
A small gesture that shifted everything — the tilt of a head, the softening of breath.
These are not accidents. They are moves in the dance of relating.
Not the choreographed kind — but the live, responsive kind. The kind where both people are listening with more than ears.
What if all relating was like this?
Not a fixed thing — not “a relationship” you can point to, hang on a wall, or file in a box —
but a living rhythm. A song you’re always in the act of singing.
From 'Relationships' to Relating...
It’s easy to think of “relationships” as static things — a noun, a status, a box you tick.
But relating is a verb.
It’s something we’re always doing — with others, with ourselves, with the world around us. In every meeting, every misunderstanding, every shared glance or silent space, we’re dancing the moves of relating.
Sometimes we’re leading — shaping the tone, making an offer.
Sometimes we’re following — listening deeply, responding to what’s present.
Often, we’re doing both, moment by moment.
Relating Everywhere is a way of seeing. A way of being in the world that’s attuned to the ongoing choreography between people.
Relating Everywhere is a way of seeing. A way of being in the world that’s attuned to the ongoing choreography between people.
It shows up:
- when you notice your friend go quiet — and pause before filling the space
- when you shift your posture in a tense meeting — and the energy softens
- when a child hands you a drawing — and you receive it like a gift
These aren’t grand gestures. They’re micro-movements. And yet they shape the entire field of human connection.
Relating Everywhere is about becoming conscious of these movements — and learning to move with more grace, clarity, and soul.
The ByHeart Way of Relating
There’s no script. No perfect technique.
But there is an art — and it begins with attention.
At ByHeart, relating isn’t about getting it “right.” It’s about learning to feel the rhythm of a moment. To sense when to offer and when to receive. When to move, and when to stay.
It’s the dance of lead and follow, not as roles fixed in gender or hierarchy — but as relational postures, always in motion.
We lead by offering a direction, a tone, a possibility.
We follow by meeting what’s here — with curiosity, not compliance.
In this way of working, you’ll learn to:
- listen with your whole self, not just your ears
- respond without losing yourself
- recognise your own subtle moves — even when you don’t think you’re “doing” anything
- shift from reaction to response, from push-and-pull to presence
It’s a practice that becomes visible in how you hold a boundary, receive a compliment, repair a rupture, or extend a welcome.
And when it clicks — even just for a breath — you feel it.
Relating becomes less like tug-of-war, more like music.
Sidebar: You might be yearning for this if...
- You often feel like you’re “too much” — or not quite enough
- You get caught in loops with people you care about, and don’t know how to shift the pattern
- You’re good at holding space for others, but don’t always feel met yourself
- You long for connection that honours both your softness and your sovereignty
- You’ve been told you’re “intense” or “sensitive” — and secretly wonder if that’s a gift
Again, this isn’t about fixing you. It’s about learning to move differently — in ways that feel true, graceful, and powerful from the inside.
What Changes Through This Work
The world doesn't change. Not immediately.
But your way of moving in it does.
Through this work, you begin to notice — the moment before a reaction, the tug in your belly before a “yes” that’s really a “no,” the subtle shift when someone softens because you stayed present.
You begin to notice — the moment before a reaction, the tug in your belly before a “yes” that’s really a “no,” the subtle shift when someone softens because you stayed present.
What begins to change:
- Your inner compass sharpens — you can feel what’s true, even in the blur of emotion
- Conflict becomes navigable — not because it disappears, but because you know how to move with it
- You hold your shape — no longer collapsing or hardening to survive connection
- You become a tuning fork — your presence invites others into coherence
- You know how to lead without force, and follow without disappearing
And bit by bit, you discover that intimacy isn’t something you perform — it’s something you practice.
Not always perfectly. But increasingly with grace.
The Music of Relating
Relating is a music.
Sometimes it’s a fugue of missed notes. Sometimes it’s a breathless duet.
Sometimes you’re humming alone — wondering if anyone else knows the tune.
But when the music lands — when someone meets your offer with a response that feels you — the whole room can change.
When I work with people, we learn to listen for that moment.
To move with it. To make space for it to arise again.
We draw from the intelligence of dance, from the practice of attunement, from soul-informed psychology — but what we’re really doing is learning to hear ourselves in the song.
And to offer a line others can sing along to.
Not to control the chorus. But to be part of the harmony.
If you long for relating that feels alive…
You don’t need to have the right language.
You don’t need to know what “lead and follow” means.
All you need is a sense — however faint — that more is possible.
More ease.
More clarity.
More moments where you feel met — and where you can meet others without losing yourself.
This is the work of relating everywhere.
In meetings, in marriages, in moments at the checkout line.
You don’t have to do it perfectly. You just have to show up with curiosity, and a willingness to hear the music again.
If something in you stirred as you read, you’re already moving.
The next step is yours.
You can book a first session here — or, if you’re not sure yet, learn more about how I work, or simply linger a while. Read. Reflect. Let the rhythm call you when it’s time.
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