Sitting On the Fence?
If you’ve been sitting on the fence about a significant decision, this is for you.
Chances are you’ve already weighed up the pros and cons. They didn’t make the decision for you.
Information doesn’t make decisions. You do.
Information doesn’t make decisions. You do.
More specifically, what you decide needs to sound right not just to your logically-thinking front brain. It also needs the agreement of your emotional back-of-the-head brain.
Your back-brain doesn’t get pros and cons done the conventional way.
It needs the sense that what you’ve moving towards feels exciting - and at least a little bit safe.
What you’ve moving towards needs to feel exciting - and at least a little bit safe.
What makes it feel that way is being able to ‘see’ the outlines of this future in your mind’s eye. If it’s a complete blur to you, if you get a blank when you try to imagine how a decision would pan out, your visceral self will slam on the brakes.
You can spend a long time in that kind of limbo.
What do you need to help you commit?
If you’re thinking “For something drastic to push me!” you’re not alone.
And yet, it’s such a deceptive wish. Burning bridges behind you would force you to commit to a path, yes. But it’s also a way to side-step making a choice.
I call this kind of scenario ‘sub-optimal’.
What if you could make a choice based on what you want, rather than out of necessity?
What if you could make a choice based on what you want, rather than out of necessity?
What would help you decide?
Before you dismiss what’s welling up in you by way of reply, I invite you to hear your own concerns and objections.
They are not the end of the line. They can be the start of a fruitful conversation with yourself.
How to have a more productive conversation with yourself about your path ahead?
I’ve distilled part of the answer into my Time For a Change eBook. It’s based on the learnings from a field of study called Change Management.
The gist is that you list your every misgiving and concern, and convert them into conditions for success. What you get by the end is a description of the path that suits you and your circumstances. Once you have that, there are no more reasons to hang back.
What do you need to help you make your decision?
Get Unstuck
If you’re clear that you need more hands-on guidance and support, I’d love to invite you to one of my Get Unstuck online workshops.
I run these 90-minute sessions roughly once a month.
As a participant, you will get guided to apply to your own situation a (self-)coaching format called GROW.
You’ll build your own visual ‘map’ of what your path ahead needs to look like, using just a stack of sticky post-it notes.
What’s the format?
📆 Check my Eventbrite for the next date and time
💬 Interactive online workshop
⏳ 1.5 hours
🏷️ Open to all free / by donation.
🎟️ Sign up for the next Get Unstuck workshop
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