Sovereignty: coming home

"It makes sense to me and that’s enough."

That’s how you sound when you come home to yourself,

when you’re grounded, feet firmly planted,
the Sovereign in the middle of your universe.

Coming home to yourself

“It makes sense to me and that’s enough.”

That was Idele (name changed) at the start of our second meeting.

She’d sounded very different at our first.

“When I think of dressing attractively, I start sobbing. I can’t seem to touch the idea, like it’s booby-trapped. My throat closes up till I’m choking.”

As we tenderly lift the veil on what’s beneath her tears, Idele speaks of feeling sad at the thought that she’d lost herself.

She’s spent a lifetime being strong, but what she feels inside is empty.

She wants to feel and be: open and confident, lighthearted, flirty.

We ponder together what might give a boost to these qualities in her.

What we discover is a secret resource, another version of Idele, whom she nicknames The Diva.

Idele’s inner Diva is the part of her that feels happy taking centre-stage and calling the shots. She’s more flamboyant and self-assured than Idele’s familiar everyday mode.

I’m not surprised to meet different versions of Idele.

Psychosynthesis psychology views the human psyche not as a monolith, but more akin to a chorus of many voices.

It’s as the Diva that Idele sails into our next meeting, brimming with self-affirmation.

She’s found a part of herself that she’d been missing. Just one week noticing and cherishing her inner Diva has revealed new horizons for Idele.

With the Diva for company, she’s ready for our second session to break new ground.

Her feet firmly planted at the centre of her personal universe, Queen of her Domain, Idele dares to form and discover a new vision of her Dream Man, the man whom she’d want to welcome into her world.

But that’s a story for another time.

The process we used to discover Idele’s Diva, her hidden inner resource, comes from Psychosynthesis psychology, pioneered in mid-20C by Carl Jung’s contemporary, the Italian psychologist Dr Roberto Assagioli.

Not sure what comes next?

Sometimes the first step is just saying this matters.

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